Holiday Survival Guide

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⚡ Conflict Triage

Answer quickly to find the right stance.

Is the other person calm enough to listen?

💬 Safe Response Generator

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📚 The Framework

According to CFT (Compassion-Focused Therapy), judgment is often a threat response. They feel unsafe or anxious, and judgment gives them a false sense of control.

It is rarely about you. It is about their need to order their world.

Schopenhauer argued that trying to change a person's character via argument is like trying to turn lead into gold.

The Move: Observe their behavior scientifically. "Ah, the uncle is performing the 'Political Rant' routine. Fascinating specimen." This creates emotional distance.

Treat insults as sounds, not facts.

Internal Mantra: "I am noticing the thought that I am being attacked."